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Eight Don'ts for Men Who Use Dating Websites
By David Roy | Published on Apr 11, 2010 | Category: Online Dating Tips
When you start communicating with a woman online, both of you are in the process of getting to know each other. Certain things turn women off. During that preliminary time, as you begin to exchange a few emails, there are things you may want to avoid doing to make sure she likes you and wants to keep the conversation going.
Here are eight things you should avoid doing when communicating with women on dating websites.
1. Don't talk about sex. Do not try to get her attention by talking about sex. You will be wasting your time. This will turn her off, and she might think that the only thing you want is to get in her pants.
Instead, work at getting her to like you by talking about something she likes or something you have in common. Create an affinity between the two of you by discussing nonsexual things. The conversation about sex can come later, after you have established a strong connection.
2. Don't be negative. Women—in fact, people in general—do not like negativity. There is no reason to be negative. When you begin to interact with a woman, she does not know you, so don't show your frustration or hatred for things or she will think this is all you focus on. That will give her a bad first impression, and she won't feel like replying to you.
Turn your negative opinion into a positive one. For example, instead of saying, "I hate country and western music," tell her about what kind of music you do like and why.
3. Don't ask personal questions. Don't ask her last name, where she works, her address, or her phone number too soon. She might get suspicious. Remember that you have just met online; she has never seen you before and does not know you. You must first create a sense of trust between you.
Once she knows you and you gain each other's trust, she will be willing to open up to you, and she might even end up giving you her phone number without your asking faster then you think.
4. Don't lie. Please, do not lie. There is no good reason to lie. Try to create a trustworthy relationship. Getting her to like you by lying won't take you anywhere. At some point she will find out and will be turned off by it. Remember that no one wants to deal with a liar.
5. Don't brag. Don't talk about how funny, intelligent, rich, or sexy you are. Anyone can write that in an email message while hiding behind a computer screen. Show her, don't tell her. Good grammar and clever language will show her your intelligence, a quality photo can show her how sexy you are, and a good sense of humor in your profile essay and your emails will show her that you are funny.
6. Don't use abbreviations. Don't write your email using chat room abbreviations. Use complete sentences instead. Abbreviations show your laziness and make it look as though you do not take her seriously. It is as if you are sending a quick email without much interest.
7. Don't make grammar mistakes. Many women are turned off by bad grammar. Use a spell-check before sending each message. That's one way to show her not only that you are educated but also how serious you are.
8. Don't be general. Don't be general when sending her messages. Avoid writing things like "I like to walk on the beach" or "I like to watch movies." Instead, tell her about the kind of movies you like and why you like them. That will help get the conversation going.
The "rules" for trying to get a woman's attention when you start communicating with her include finding something she likes to talk about, something you have in common, or any subjects you both can enjoy discussing.
The don'ts above are a few things you should avoid doing while you are dating online. These tips will help you in accomplishing your goal of meeting women on the Internet.
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